Grief Support for Families

Anticipatory grief is the sadness, worry and sense of loss that can come before a death. You might mourn the retirement you planned together, feel guilty for thinking about the future or swing between hope and dread. These feelings are normal and do not mean you have given up. Talking about them with a counselor, support group or trusted friend can help. Some families find it meaningful to have honest conversations about wishes, memories and unfinished business while there is still time.

Hospice programs typically offer bereavement services for family members for a period after a death, which may include phone check-ins, mailings, support groups and counseling referrals. Many cancer centers, faith communities and nonprofit organizations offer grief groups as well. Some groups focus on specific losses, such as the loss of a spouse or parent. If grief makes daily life very hard for an extended time, a mental health professional can help. Grief counseling can also support people dealing with anger about asbestos exposure.

Children grieve differently from adults. They may seem fine one moment and upset the next, or show grief through behavior, sleep problems or school struggles. Use clear words, answer questions honestly and keep routines steady. Let children take part in rituals in ways that feel right to them, such as drawing a picture or choosing a song. Many communities have grief programs or camps for children. Tell teachers and school counselors about the loss so they can offer support. Your hospice or cancer center social worker can suggest programs suited to each child's age.

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   Ask the hospice or cancer center social worker about grief support available to family members now.

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   Find a support group that matches your relationship to the patient, such as spouse or adult child.

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   Tell children's teachers and school counselors about the illness and any loss.

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   Seek a counselor if grief keeps you from sleeping, eating or functioning for an extended time.